Loss and love

Last July, my wife, Alex, and I found out that she was pregnant with our second child. For most people that follow her online, we look to have a pretty great life. And we do.

But a few years ago, things were not so great. A week or so before my first niece was born, Alex and I found out that we were pregnant after a year of trying to conceive. Two days after my niece was born, we found out that we’d lost our little one. Two days later was Mother’s Day. So there we were celebrating a new baby in our family and our gratitude for mothers while my Alex and I are completely broken from our loss. It is still one of the hardest weeks of my life.

Later that year, we miscarried again.

Through it all, Alex and I held close and chose to love each other. It is easy to concede to temptation, and allow frustration and sadness to overwhelm. We went the opposite direction and held on tight to one another instead.

There is no perfect way to overcome loss. But if the option to love is on the table, you always have a fighting chance.